If a woman wants a child but cannot become pregnant due to vaginismus, she may psychologically feel suppressed.
Vaginismus creates situations that prevent vaginal entry or make it very difficult, and even though the woman wants it very much, she cannot become pregnant. The longer a woman lives with vaginismus, the more she wonders whether she will be able to have a child. As the years go by, the great longing to have a child can become exhausting. Women feel helpless. Nevertheless, women with vaginismus cannot explain to others why they cannot get pregnant.
They cannot answer the questions of family and friends about this issue, or they have to lie. The woman’s feelings of shame, failure, and isolation increase even more. We can even see that some women may make offers to their husbands such as, “ Divorce me, marry someone else and have a child.” We understand these pressures, and we support the efforts of couples who want to become pregnant, knowing that time passes quickly. However, as much as possible, before women turn to pregnancy options, we recommend that they decide on and begin working on overcoming vaginismus. Eliminating vaginismus contributes to a more comfortable pregnancy and healthier marital relationships.
The desire to become pregnant is a major motivator for women to complete the vaginismus treatment program more quickly. Ideally, overcoming vaginismus within a reasonable time frame and having painless sexual intercourse gives couples the option of becoming pregnant through more reliable and natural methods.
Alternative Methods to Become Pregnant
Alternative methods of becoming pregnant without vaginal intercourse are possible. Women with vaginismus can become pregnant either through ejaculation at the vaginal entrance or through methods such as intrauterine insemination (IUI) or in vitro fertilization (IVF). Compared to vaginal intercourse with normal penetration, the chance of becoming pregnant with alternative techniques is generally lower and very costly.
Before alternative methods to become pregnant, overcoming vaginismus is the most practical and suitable option. Overcoming vaginismus is life-changing and can enrich the couple’s relationship in a wonderful way. Solving vaginismus before having a child allows pregnancy, childbirth, and parenthood to be enjoyed more, without the ongoing stress and pressures of vaginismus in the relationship.
