The Nightmare Is Over
My Dear Doctors, Ender Bey and Nilay Hanım;
Thanks to you, I was freed from a two-and-a-half-year nightmare..
In the first days of my marriage, I was not even aware of this situation. Both my spouse and I knew that there was a problem, but it had never even crossed my mind that I might have vaginismus. I first understood this situation when I wanted to have a child and went to a gynecologist, but could not be examined.. However, doctors were not offering any help on this matter. I went to other doctors, and the result was always disappointment.. Then I started researching on my own, and all my research was pointing to the fact that I had vaginismus.. But still I kept saying to myself, it cannot be.. Then my spouse said that he had met Ender doctor, and when he explained the situation, Ender doctor also stated that I had vaginismus.. At that moment, my world collapsed.. I kept crying constantly until our first appointment with Ender doctor.. And we came to the clinic with my spouse. But I also had so many questions in my mind.. What kind of person would I meet? Would he judge me? How would he react when I explained? Most importantly, how would I explain it? But when I met Ender Bey, in the very first session I said yes; I am in the right place and the right person is in front of me. I relaxed instantly, and as if I had known Ender Bey for many years, I told him everything.. I now had a huge hope inside me. Good days were near, and I was definitely going to get rid of this situation. Also, I was not the only person experiencing this, and most importantly, I had a one hundred percent chance of recovery. But I still had doubts inside.. How was I going to get rid of this condition? My mind simply could not grasp it.
First, we started treatment with Ender doctor. Every time I came to each session, my hope increased exponentially, and each time I said I am so glad I came, I am so glad I am in the right place, and I am so glad I met Ender doctor.. Then we continued with his dear wife, Nilay Hanım.. Everything was going very well, we had already reached the final stages, and when I looked back, I realized that I had come a very long way.
At first, those exercises that I said I could never do in my life became so easy – and in a very short time.
Ender doctor’s suggestions, Nilay doctor’s patient and kind care for me, and even that peaceful atmosphere in the clinic—everything, absolutely everything, had mobilized so much for me to get rid of this nightmare..
Time started to pass, and I had slowly begun to get rid of this nightmare that I had magnified in my eyes, feared, and said I could never escape from for my whole life.
In my last session, Nilay doctor said, you have now succeeded in all the exercises; when you feel ready, you can do it. At that moment I said, is it over now, is that all?.. Was it really this simple?
Yes, it was that simple.. And in the end, I succeeded, and I still could not believe it..
I had waited two years for something so simple..
And then I said, I am so glad I met Ender doctor and Nilay doctor.. I am so glad they crossed my path..
For teaching me all the truths I did not know on this subject, for your patience and kindness, for all your efforts, and most importantly for helping me get rid of this nightmare, my spouse and I will be grateful to you until the end of our lives. Thank you so, so much for everything..
With our love …
Hatice B.
