Just in the first year of our marriage, we regained our happiness. Everything was so beautiful, our wedding, our preparations, but apparently there was a problem waiting for us and we had no idea. We came home on the night of the wedding, everything was wonderful, there had been celebrations, but when it came to intercourse, we failed. Frankly, I did not dwell on it too much at first, thinking it was because of the intensity and fatigue of the first night. We got through the first week like this. During that week, I researched on the internet every day and unfortunately came face to face with a condition called “VAGINISMUS.” I read about it, and all the symptoms were present in me. Just when we were about to have intercourse, my legs would tense up, my heart would feel like it was going to jump out of my chest, and I would not allow intercourse. We gave ourselves three months, thinking we could fix the situation on our own and succeed, but in the end we understood that we definitely needed a specialist. I had always read online that there were people who went to specialists for years and still could not succeed. Reading these made me even more pessimistic. In February 2012, I gathered all my courage and decided to get professional support. We went regularly to sessions with a specialist whose name I do not need to mention, but the result did not change. She gave me finger exercises as homework, but the result was the same. I did all of the finger exercises, but when it came to the moment of intercourse, everything was just like the first day. And by then I was more than uncomfortable with this situation. I started searching for a doctor again. Dr. Ender Vardar was recommended by a specialist. First, I spoke to him on the phone. In a very warm and reassuring tone, he told me that there was nothing that could not be solved, and I immediately made an appointment. Who would have thought that this would be resolved with hypnosis treatment? Even if they had told me, I would not have believed it; maybe I would have laughed it off. Until it happened to me. Since I had already been able to do the finger exercises beforehand, Dr. Ender explained that our job would be easier, and I promised in a determined way that I would succeed, even if it was difficult. Our last session was on October 23, our wedding anniversary. That day, after a few exercises (that is, after 2 days), Ender Bey said we could try. It was a holiday, and we tried that evening. One part of me was hopeful, another part was sad. I was worried, thinking, What if I cannot do it? And in our first attempt, I did not even realize it happened; intercourse took place. In the following days, I immediately called our doctor and I had to share the happy news with him. Thank God, he was as happy as we were. Our doctor had always told me, “You’ll see, when it happens, you’ll say, Is that all? Was this what I was afraid of?” and that is exactly what happened. I really did say, Is that all? And when we tried intercourse for the first time, my husband and I shouted together, “THANK YOU, ENDER BEY” with joy. Even while writing this letter, that moment came to my mind and I smiled.
So I can say that one year passed in vain. I wish Ender Bey had come into our lives earlier. Maybe we would have had a baby by now. Still, we found the right doctor, and thanks to him we got rid of our problem. I thank him very much for the effort and value he gave us. Of course, I should not overlook myself either; I did not let that effort go to waste.
Thank you, Ender Bey,
Endless love and respect.
T&K
