Hello friends; this is my success story too, yes, in the end I succeeded as well… After three years. I used to wonder so much whether I would one day be able to write this letter too. I have been married for three years, and until now I always felt like a half, incomplete, pitiful little girl. I could not make sense of it, it was so ridiculous, but somehow I could not overcome this problem. I love my spouse very much; we went on vacation many times and it did not happen, we said romance and it did not happen, we said weekend and again it did not happen. I kept postponing, postponing, deceiving myself and keeping myself busy, and actually I was always finding nonsense excuses for myself. Like this, one day I looked and three years had passed; I had poisoned my three years, my marriage, for both myself and my spouse, and most of all I had poisoned life for myself. It was so bad that I know how many times I cried until morning, misunderstanding even the smallest word from my spouse and interpreting it as “of course, because I can’t have intercourse,” and then our arguments… I was going crazy, my God, everyone can do it, am I the only one? Of course, of course I thought I was the only one. During this time, I went to two doctors. Choosing the right doctor is so important; bless them, with their attitudes they made me completely lose interest, and I became even more alienated from treatment and from myself…. I deceived myself like this for a while too. Then one day, while browsing on the internet, I saw the page of Ender Bey and Nilay Hanım. I had a feeling inside, as if I felt they would be good for me, and indeed that is what happened. I immediately asked my spouse to call and speak with Ender Bey. My spouse called during the day and the assistant lady told us they would get back to us. Around 6–7 in the evening, I said no, they won’t call, but I was insanely excited. Then around 8:30, Ender Bey called and they spoke with my spouse; Ender Bey explained the treatment in detail, thank goodness. From the very beginning, the fact that he was so attentive on the phone affected me deeply. I immediately said to my spouse, let’s go. And we went… The marathon had started for me… Ender Bey spoke with us in such a way that in the very first meeting I was encouraged so much that at that moment I believed I would overcome this ordeal. I felt amazing because a huge light of hope had been born. Later, we met Nilay Hanım; she was so sweet, I mean she approached me with the sincerity and warmth of a real friend, and I had warmed to her so much. I had two hypnosis sessions with Ender Bey and I felt unbelievably relaxed; I had tensed myself up so much, and apparently I did not even know what relaxing and letting go meant. Then I started working with Nilay Hanım. In the first session I said I can’t do it, and right at that moment Nilay Hanım stepped in. She motivated me in such a way that I would fall and she would lift me up. Let me give you a short example: with my previous doctor, I used to feel like a stupid little girl, and that is why I did not continue anyway. Nilay Hanım made me feel wonderful; she taught me that I am valuable and what I can actually achieve if I want to. Bless her, she patiently put up with my whiny moods. Then Nilay Hanım said, yes, you are ready now. While I should have been happy that my problem was solved, I actually felt a sadness inside, I was almost upset ;)) I said, so are we not going to see each other again, and I hugged her and we said goodbye. I hope you read this letter, Nilay Hanım and Ender Bey…..
I am grateful to you, thank you so much, you did me such a great favor that I am very happy, I will never forget you…
Yes friends, my friends with vaginismus, I am speaking to you: trust Nilay Hanım and Ender Bey with your eyes closed.
Friends, please do not be afraid, there is no wall in our vagina, it is not closed :)) The wall is actually in our minds. Everything ends in the mind, and the most important thing is DETERMINATION. Can you believe it, when I succeeded I asked my spouse many times whether it really happened, I did not even feel it. It is actually such a simple thing that when you succeed, you say wow, was that it… I know I wrote too much, but what can I do, if I encourage even one person, that is enough to make me happy.
Wishing that everyone who experiences this problem tears down the walls in their MIND as soon as possible…
Sender: hatice…….gmail.com
Subject: WHAT IS VAGINISMUS ANYWAY?::)))
Recipient: drenderofis@gmail.com
