Our most important sexual organ is our brain. The pleasure received from sexuality is completely connected to our emotions and thoughts. For a healthy and happy sexuality, the person’s mind should not be occupied with other things.
If the person has negative emotions and thoughts directly related to sexuality, it is more difficult to enjoy sexual intercourse. Not only for vaginismus but also for almost all sexual dysfunctions, the basis lies in the person’s negative emotions and thoughts about themselves, their own body, their partner, or sexuality. Negative thoughts a woman has about herself and her own body, and not being able to relax during intercourse, may lead to inability to orgasm.
From the male perspective as well, negative suggestions placed in the man’s mind by society regarding masculinity and sexual power (such as the penis always needing to be hard, or penile hardness being a symbol of masculinity) cause erection problems in men.
Spouses of women with vaginismus may also have some sexual problems (such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation).
