What You Need to Know to Have a Comfortable First Sexual Experience
Keeping foreplay long and doing it carefully will cause both the woman’s vagina to become sufficiently lubricated and the man’s penis to become sufficiently erect. Sexual intercourse that takes place after foreplay should be quite slow, and it should not be rushed.
During the first sexual intercourse, you need to be patient, understanding, and tolerant toward each other.
After foreplay, just before intercourse, a lubricating cream or gel applied to the vaginal opening may help the intercourse go more comfortably.
When foreplay is kept long and the woman feels ready, she may not feel pain or may feel very little pain during the disruption of the hymen. Focusing on pleasure during intercourse by both partners will further ease this pain.
In general, the amount of bleeding after the first sexual intercourse varies. It may be very little or sometimes there may be none at all. There is no requirement that there will definitely be bleeding after the first sexual intercourse. Whether there is bleeding or none is related to the anatomical structure of the hymen.
Couples who do not want to have a child immediately can use one of the birth control methods (such as birth control pills, injections, condoms). For this, they should consult an obstetrician-gynecologist before marriage and choose the method that is most suitable for them.
For a successful first sexual intercourse, what the woman needs to do is to clearly give her spouse or partner the message of whether she is ready or not ready.
During the foreplay stage, the woman should take control, and the man should be willing to leave control to the woman.
For a successful first night, what the man needs to do is to accept that the woman has a different nature from his and not forget the fact that it takes much longer for a woman to be ready for sexual intercourse than it does for a man. The man should do his best for the woman to relax and feel comfortable and should be very patient.
Many sexual problems (vaginismus, lack of sexual desire, inability to have an orgasm, etc.) arise from the negative attitudes of the spouse or partner experienced during the first sexual intercourse.
